With the shift in society towards more self-awareness of one’s sexuality and the broadening awareness of gender-fluidity, it is more important than ever for birth professionals to be comfortable and well educated on how to best support the LGBTQ community. It becomes more pertinent than ever for allies and members of the community to be able to support those who may not fit into the traditional mold of what birthing individuals and families look like. It’s time to step up our game as the United States experiences a queering of the birth and parenting communities. We need to be able to create safe places and resources for this community and for these families.
I chatted with Tynan Rhea of TynanRhea.com – Queering Holistic Health. Her article about gender neutral birth terms and how to use them was fascinating and highly informative. I wanted to get to know her more and introduce her to our own followers.
Although a VERY busy person, Tynan was kind enough to set up a Skype call and it was a pleasure hearing all the great things she’s doing for the birth and LGBTQ community.
She has been a doula for 2 years and has taught sexual education (not just to children) for 10.
I highly encourage you to check out her website and her blog- both are quite thought-provoking as Tynan doesn’t tend to hold back.
One of the most poignant things she said during our entire chat was that when someone hears a new thing it means they need to adjust their view of the world. The initial reaction is anger. It’s real. But before reacting, they should first sit with that feeling. Let it marinate. Remind themselves they are not a horrible person but rather open up and appreciate how to change going forward. They should be gentle with themselves.
Change takes time. Learning to adjust to the queering of the birth and parenting community in general is going to take time. Learning how to be a resource and safe space for those in this community is going to take some learning and growing. And that’s hard but remember, be open and be gentle…both with yourself and others.