They tell you about the bond it will create. How good breast milk is for your baby. How you will feel love for your baby and all the warm feelings. It makes you not want to admit the elephant, or better stated, the cow in the room…
Sometimes you feel like a cow. A milk factory.
No one talks about these feelings. No one tells you it’s okay to acknowledge these thoughts. Some days you will nurse your baby only because you have to and that is okay!
Here are some tips to overcome those feelings:
1. Take some time for yourself. Go for a walk, grab your favorite Starbucks drink, do some yoga. Self-care can help to relieve the overwhelming feelings that you are only a provider of milk. Remind yourself that you are a separate person from your baby.
2. Talk with someone and/or journal. Verbalizing how you are feeling can be one of the first steps to pull you out of the emotions you are feeling. Knowing that you are heard and then being encouraged through it can make all the difference.
3. Pump a bottle. Have someone else feed the baby for a feeding. Sometimes, one feed away from your little one can ease the “milk factory” feelings.
4. Flick on the TV/grab a distraction. Sometimes something to keep your mind off of the feeding will be enough to get you through.
5. Reward yourself. Find your favorite treat and promise yourself said treat after a feeding. You earned it. Allow those 500 extra calories you need anyway, work for you.
If none of these work, know it will pass. It is hard, but feeling like a cow will pass. It will more than likely come in waves, but don’t worry, those nurturing feelings for your baby will return.
Give yourself some credit and some grace. You are after all keeping a little person alive.
Some encouragement and reminder, You are NOT a cow!